Flooding and Conflict Avoidance

A spiritual person at heart, she believes in destiny and the power of Self. She is an avid reader and writer and likes to spend her free time baking and learning about world cultures. The more you challenge yourself to face rather than avoid conflict, the greater potential for your personal growth. Your attempts will be respected by even your adversaries when you open up the dialogue of alternative thinking.

Instead of arguing or fighting, they pretend everything is okay to keep the peace. Kari Rusnak manages her telehealth private practice and is currently licensed in Mississippi, Colorado, and Utah. Kari is a Board Certified Telemental Health Provider and trained in EMDR. She is a Certified Gottman Therapist and her practice focuses on LGBTQ+, those in open/poly relationships, chronic pain, and sexual health. Most of what we learn about relationships, love, and conflict comes from what we have observed growing up, by watching our parents and other important adults in our lives.

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When you hold in conflict it can grow bigger and bigger and come out as an explosion. A small conflict pushed aside then becomes so large it feels unresolvable. Instead of telling your partner when something is bothering you, it builds up into a pile and you start to have a negative narrative about your partner. That actually makes it harder to be in a positive perspective. When this happens, it can be hard to feel connected, partially because you aren’t opening up and sharing with your partner, but also because the resentment creates a distance.

Understanding the effects of conflict avoidance can help you mitigate them without further damaging your relationships. Your avoidance has not solved the problem of external conflict but rather created the issue of internal conflict. The double bind between external and internal conflict seems to promote an ineffective response to conflict. There are some situations where it is best to use conflict avoidance.

What to Do if You are a Conflict Avoider or in a Relationship with One

Conflict avoidance is a person’s method of reacting to conflict, which attempts to avoid directly confronting the issue at hand. Conflict prevention can be used as a temporary measure to buy time or as permanent means of disposing of a matter. However, conflict prevention can also take the form of withdrawing from the relationship.

Avoidance prevents you from confronting your anxiety or the thing you fear that’s holding you back and growing past it. Phobic reactions are an excellent example of how avoidance can create unmanageable situations that only get worse over time. When we avoid external conflict, how to deal with someone who avoids conflict have we created an internal battle? After all, we have suppressed our emotions, possibly anger, some frustration, our thoughts, and maybe even our beliefs. Our external conflict has been resolved but, unfortunately, only to be replaced by our own internal conflict.

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